Dare To Be Bravely Honest
I was texting someone the other day and I decided to be Bravely Honest. Sounds risky doesn’t it? Yeah, it is. I was brave enough to be honest with myself and the receiver of the message whom I don’t know well. It was really a “thinking out loud, here it goes, what am I doing?” type of message. It got me thinking about what it means to be Bravely Honest and the consequences of that.
When I lead trainings on building communication I always say, “never say anything important in a text” (because of what gets lost in translation). But heck if you’re limited to a text, just do it. I have to clarify I’m referring to saying things that are positive, good, encouraging, and yes heartfelt, even if baring your heart is a bit risky. Let’s face it, when is it ever not risky to bare your heart? What’s the alternative? What if you didn’t say “it” and you could have changed the world for someone or for yourself?
Why be bravely honest?Here’s the scenarios my mind raced through as I thought about the cost of not saying something that feels risky to me, but desperately needed by the receiver. What if the words are:
- full of dreams
- well wishes
- the unknown being questioned
- the forbidden desires we dare not share
- a game-changer
- the magical “what if” scenario
Say what you need to say
I subscribe to the school of thought that says “say what you need to say”, thank you John Mayer. What if you didn’t say it and someone walked away and never knew?
It could be anything…
- you believe in them
- you love them
- their dream matters to you
- you’re sorry
- you see they’ve got what it takes to make it
- they matter to you
- you see them
- you hear them
- I’m afraid of “____” too
- I’m here for you
- I’m waiting for you
- I was wrong
What is the risk?Being honest and vulnerable always comes with a risk. What if what you want to say is something that’s burning deep inside your heart, but other people simply don’t understand it? Is that a risk worth taking? We can’t begin to know if they will walk away, sleep on it, or have their “aha” moment? Maybe you’re the messenger that will change their life? Dig deep and say what you need to say and what they need to hear.
Words matterWords are used every moment of every day and they are one of the most powerful gifts you have. You hold within you the opportunity to change lives, relationships and quite literally your world. How will you use your words today?
You can build up or tear down. You can love or hate. You can open a door or close it. You can say hello or say goodbye.I told the clerk at Old Navy her lipstick was pretty, she shined after I said it. It costs me nothing but put a big deposit in her life account. Every tiny deed matters, don’t think it doesn’t. Every tiny deed matters, don't think it doesn't. Click To Tweet As you look through your social media stream and listen to the news, pay attention to how many positive messages you hear. Challenge yourself to be a catalyst for speaking truth and speaking life in a Bravely Honest way. I’d love to hear how these questions impacted you. Please leave a comment about how you intend to be Bravely Honest.